By Rhonda Jones
We are told whatever we resist, persist, and that is so true when it comes to the hidden fears, traumas, emotions, or limiting beliefs buried deep within our unconscious minds. Until we deal with, make peace, heal, or transmute them, they keep returning. Until we release them, they have nowhere else to go. They are trapped inside a bottle (us) with the cap tightly fastened. Until we open the cap and deal with the aftermath (feelings, memories, trauma), they continue to affect us and are the antithesis to the freedom, peace, and joy that we can have in Christ.
The resistance of unresolved emotions and pain can cause us to resist many things that are trying to come into our lives as well. When resistance is present things like love, new ideas, blessings, and God’s promises are pushed away. Instead of embracing these things, our fears keep us trapped and we usually don’t even know why. It’s just an internal reaction. Though they may try to come back for a time, eventually, our resistance will win out and we can lose something, many good and blessed things, in the process.
For example, if the Holy Spirit keeps impressing upon you to take a certain action and you keep resisting it due to fear, pride, or doubt, eventually your opportunity will fly away. It’s not to say that it won’t come back or in another form later, but if you haven’t healed or dealt with your resistance, the outcome will be the same. This is why we continue to have different circumstance but the same results, over and over again. The scenery may have changed but our resistance remains.
It can also apply to relationships. God may send you great love, but because of resistance and the fear of being hurt or losing control, you push away the person’s love or try to control them or the situation to protect yourself. Eventually, they will fly away as well and your subconscious beliefs will win.
I believe right now in my life, God, through the Holy Spirit, is impressing on me to relinquish control of it all! My understanding is so limited and when “I” try to control things, I believe God said to me recently that, “I am creating them (my life) in ‘my image’ instead of His (God’s) image for me.”
I’ve noticed lately the tendency to want to control outcomes or even to rationalize away intuition or promptings thinking I know better. But through much reflection and contemplation, I am understanding that it is within these very promptings that God, in His subtle way, is telling me to take action that may be leading me towards my divine promise land or greater blessings.
Recently, I’ve been thinking about how I can host more consistent local retreats in my area. Many thoughts, some more plausible than others (yet nothing is impossible with God) have come to mind. Then several days ago while driving, right out of the blue, I felt impressed to place a notice in my local craigslist saying, “Christian meditation teacher seeks home in country or forest setting for ongoing intimate retreats.” And then the VERY next day, I received this message:
Hi. I saw your CL ad. I don’t have that place, but I would like to connect and chat. I am in Lincoln. I’m a Christian who is called to help people with health. We have 5 acres and are setting up an orchard, garden, chickens, & wellness center. I see a future place where people could visit for wellness and Jesus.
I feel that God did and will continue to honor this act of faith towards my desire for my willingness to listen and take deliberate action. I am also affirming regularly, “Thank you Father for blessing me with a beautiful home in the country where I can host awesome retreats!” Can I tell you that I am MORE than excited!!! I know that more messages like this will come! Soon I will have a large beautiful home where I can do intimate retreats year-around!
Many times in the past, I may have resisted such promptings and pushed them away, but I’ll make my best effort not to do so any more. I now find myself listening most earnestly for the spirit’s guidance, that still small voice, within me. I am more “eager” than ever to obey it, even in the midst of resistance and fear! It is time for me to tear down my walls of Jericho are blocking me from walking in God’s divine plan for me.
In another circumstance, I felt God prompt me to reach out to someone that I’d judged and criticized, again leading to my own understanding. God reminded me, “Rhonda, you are trying to control your world again and making this situation in your image, instead of mine.” So I reached out to this person and received an immediate favorable response and was able to flow with what “was” instead of what I may have imagined it to be. We’d be so better off if we could let go of the stories we make up in our heads and just abide in the present moment, embracing the here and now.
Removing resistance means following your heart and the promptings of the Spirit within and then completely letting go of the outcomes. On an emotional level, it also entails digging deeper beyond the surface of things to find out why you respond in certain ways. It’s really never about the other person. They just reveal to us what is already within us. Letting go of resistance is also about confronting your hurts and pains from the past, inviting Jesus into them, learning the lessons, feeling and acknowledging them, and then with peace, letting them go. It begins with removing that cap from the jar.
This can take courage and some vulnerability; however, unless we operate from a place of non-resistance or control, we suppress our authenticity as well as new opportunities and we often live in the past. It stifles our blessings and what God may be trying to do in our lives. I believe God is saying to me, “lower your guard, I’ve got your back in this,” and as long as I stay centered in Christ, I am protected.”
Lastly, God has been impressing upon my heart, “What I do to others I do to myself MULTIPLIED.” (Luke 6:31) This is often referred to as the golden rule. Therefore, the bad I do comes back to me as well as the good. When I envy, hate, judge, criticize, or blame, I’m actually doing this directly to myself as well. On the contrary, when I love, give, have patience, rejoice in other’s accomplishments, and pray for others, I’m also doing these to myself, MULTIPLIED. Jesus said in Matthew 25:40, “Verily I say unto you, inasmuch as you have done it to the least of these, my brother, you have done it unto me.”
In Luke 6:38, Jesus declares, “Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you,” but this works both ways. Oftentimes, we only equate these scriptures with receiving blessings, but that is only one-sided. When we give up anything for the sake of Christ, He says we can be rewarded with up to a 100-fold return; therefore, what we give, we receive, and more.
Just think of the beatitudes, those who are merciful shall obtain mercy (Matthew 5:7) “Do not judge, lest you will be judged.” (Matthew 7: 1-2) “Forgive and you will be forgiven.” (Matthew 6:14) There is a reciprocity inherent in all of these verses. God has made me so much more mindful and aware of what I’m giving out on all levels, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
We live in a cosmic universe where what is seen is temporary and what is unseen is eternal. Those bad thoughtforms we think about others are more dense and real than the table in your dining room. Our negativity or positivity creates an invisible energetic charge that radiates from us, attracting the very thing we are putting out. For “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7) “A good man out of the good treasure in is “heart” brings forth that which is good” and “Out of the abundance of the heart, the “mouth” speaks. (Luke 6:45) “Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” (Proverbs 18:21), and “from the heart comes the issue of life.” (Proverbs 4:23) So there is a strong connection between the mind, heart, and the words we speak and what “WE” are manifesting in our lives! God is not doing it “to” us, we are doing it to ourselves by the thoughts we think, the words we use, as well as the condition of our hearts.
In light of these new revelations for me, I am choosing more earnestly to use my thoughts and words for good, to bless and not to curse, for when I bless others, I’m blessing myself and when I curse others (or speak negatively of them) I am also cursing or speaking negatively of myself. When I give to others, I give to myself and when I hold back from others, I hold back from myself, multiplied.
Paul said in Romans 6:12-13, “Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness.” In the Amplified Bible, Romans 8:12-13 reads, “So then, brothers and sisters, we have an obligation, but not to our flesh [our human nature, our worldliness, our sinful capacity], to live according to the [impulses of the] flesh [our nature without the Holy Spirit],” but to put these to death instead (Romans 13).
These teachings of Jesus have been in the scriptures for 1000s of years, but the revelation of them is becoming more real to me. In light of these new insights, I can always proclaim, “Once I was blind but now I see.”
I pray this message/article may be a blessing to others who find themselves resisting or trying to control all aspects of their lives. To you I say, “Let God, trust God, listen and know that God has your back, even if it appears otherwise.” If God is leading us, He’s already worked out all the details. Fully trusting God and following his guidance can ONLY lead to blessings beyond our comprehension. Not trusting Him leads to the same and playing small. It creates a life we created around our own fears, limitations, and resistance, instead of the wide world of blessings just waiting for us. It’s creating in “our image” instead of “God’s image” for us, and His image is so much bigger!
I can say I feel so much freer and open with these new internal revelations. I never want to stifle God, put Him in a box, or limit His possibilities in my life due to the resistance within me or the fear to take action, moment by moment, step-by-step.
In closing, we are all a “work in progress.” Each moment provides us with a new opportunity to live better and do better. The world is our assignment and people are our teachers- each day they teach us about ourselves. Every obstacle is a new assignment or opportunity to live by faith or walk in Love. Thank God he gives us lots of chances!
In closing, “I love the Spiritual Life in Christ!” What about you? Also, share in the comments how you have been resisting your life!
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